Something really scary happened to me…and it changed my life forever…
I took a chance and I DIDN’T fail - hang on a second, you say… “How was that scary?!”
Well, let me tell you!!!
My entire life there have been people who underestimated me. They didn’t expect me to do much. It didn’t matter what I did, so, I took risks… lots of them, and every time was pretty scary.
But I got used to failing, I’m actually quite good at it. I get knocked down and get right back up again. But winning… That takes a whole new type of grit!!!
Winning brings a whole new basket of fears, with winning comes new responsibility, winning invites an audience, winning comes with a little bit of power. A whole new level of expectation. If you win once, you *should* be able to win again...right?
This is why people sabotage. They put in all the work it takes to win, they’re amazing at what they do, the end goal is in the site and it’s oh-so-sweet! But right there, in the 11th hour - they drop the ball… Fuck. The. Whole. Thing. Up.
But why? Why do people do that??? BECAUSE WINNING CAN BE SCARY!!! But the thing you need to ask yourself here is, “What do I do with this fear?” Do you give in to the self-sabotage? Wreck all of your plans? Or do you dig in deep and ask yourself “Why?”
“Why am I afraid?”; “What’s the worst that’s going to happen?” Then I want you to answer those questions out loud either to a friend or to yourself in private, but I want you to say it out loud so your ears can hear you. Now that you hear the reasons, do they really feel as scary or were you just in your own head?
As women, we are so powerful in what we can achieve. But, often, we let people convince us we are less. We need to break through those limiting beliefs and work on radically removing that fear and doubt we carry around with us. We need to start asking ourselves, “Do fear and doubt serve the life I’m building?” If not, we need to let it go.
Start living the life we were built for, the life we’re building ourselves for, a life where we aren’t afraid of winning or losing because we’re enjoying the journey of it all.
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